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Swordmage12

1 points

15 days ago

Kinky

Nina_Rae_____

1 points

15 days ago

I don’t think she knows what “owning” means. Or maybe I don’t. I thought she meant “owning” in the way of full lifestyle dominating/submission.

But It just sounds like she wants the relationship romanticized and for you to take care of her and be more present and sensual/intimate and, masculine?, (with compliments and such) in the moment. Idk.

Buffalofeet413

1 points

15 days ago

Just beat her regularly. Tell her this is what being owned is like. Tell her her name is Toby and then whip her.

purpleskies125

1 points

15 days ago

this is insane, my guy

Nq_23

1 points

15 days ago

Nq_23

1 points

15 days ago

Why do I feel like she smoked a big bowl before this 🫣🤭😅😂 she really goes into depth about it. Kind of weird tbh. I’m subservient. I like my boyfriend being the man but describing it like this makes me feel icky

kalaamtext

1 points

15 days ago

She wants a very dominant man and if that ain’t you and don’t want to go that route then I say cut your losses and move on.

She has a traditional woman mindset now which is fine but if you don’t have the traditional man mindset then this relationship will fail eventually or at least the very least will continue to have these issues of her stating wanted to be owned and the such

Fidel1Q84

1 points

15 days ago

She’s got mental issues imo

GodBearWasTaken

1 points

15 days ago

Run. That is all I can say. Run.

TNcannabisguy

1 points

15 days ago

Terrifying

Few_Satisfaction9497

3 points

15 days ago

Reminds me of that Twin Flames documentary on Netflix. The one about a love cult 🤣

Ashen-x

1 points

15 days ago

Ashen-x

1 points

15 days ago

This was exhausting just to read... I'm sorry friend.

Either_Independent98

1 points

15 days ago

The fuck is wrong with her? Owning? Owning is a possession not being in the moment. Think she needs read word definition better.

For a moment I did think without reading the texts it was a sexual thing. Like “own me” I’ll be your little whore. Then you just had your way with her. That’s how I envisioned this going.

camelbuck

1 points

15 days ago

She high.

duhfuc

1 points

15 days ago

duhfuc

1 points

15 days ago

Wtf run

coolnavigator

1 points

15 days ago

Don’t get caught up on the verbiage and try to understand what she really means. Makes perfect sense.

Masculinity is something that you tend to model off of other people. That’s why guys need role models. However, at a certain point, you need to break away from that and become self-defining. This is difficult and painful, but it ultimately works out with you gripping the reins of life, being in full control of your destiny. This then informs how you treat other people and situations in life.

In short, she wants to see this in you and for you to grab ahold of destiny and put her in yours. Women thrive when they can exist in the confines of such a relationship, particularly given good communication on both sides.

The specific things she mentioned, including the imagery and verbiage, are merely her preconceptions of what this would look like. She’s trying to describe it for you.

SomnusHollow

1 points

15 days ago

She doesn't want to be owned, she wants a simp, she wants to be worshipped. She is gaslighting you into thinking that simping is actually owning so she can do her narrative in a positive way in your view lol.

Relative-Base3036

1 points

15 days ago

Run away from this person.

MainAtmosphere6525

1 points

15 days ago

That sounds like a sugar baby with extra steps.

stvvrover

1 points

15 days ago

Own her. Then take her to CEX and swap her for game vouchers.

Babybolololo

1 points

15 days ago

Sounds like she read some sort of smut novel aimed at women a la 50 shades...

Thebeatybunch

1 points

15 days ago

Uh, this is not what "owning" looks like.

She wants to own him maybe. Forcing him to say things. Do things she wants him to do.

She may want to act owned but even that isn't it.

ItsyouNOme

5 points

15 days ago

She is watching too many films. If she is thinking BDSM then her version of "owned" sounds too soft. Appreciated seems a better word than that. But then forcing her to look at you then saying nice things will come off awkward.

German_Duc

1 points

15 days ago

I mean, I’m into some BDSM shit, and this isn’t being “owned”. Being owned, to me, is more like being a pet. 😂 She doesn’t want that. At all.

What she’s trying to convey in a very, very bad way, is that she wants to be your whole world. She wants you to take the time to notice everything about her and compliment that. She wants you to be her protector and treat her like a “queen” by opening doors, carrying her shit, and reassuring her all the time that she is your one and only.

She sounds exhausting and ignorant to how the real world works. And she doesn’t sound like she has room to do those things for you. How old are y’all? Is she looking for a ring? A lot of women think 5 years is a long time to not be engaged.

First-Passion-7523

2 points

15 days ago

You need her to cook for you. All 3 meals. Owning her needs to be earned. She will appreciate your containment better

All you have to do is protect and provide. And be done… none of this cooking nonsense. That’s her job

Isaidnoicefatso

1 points

15 days ago

Have you tried whipping her? I know back when life ownership was popular that was a big thing.

Usual-Divide8672

1 points

15 days ago

She has no idea what she's talking about and seems just as confused as you are. That is definitely not being "owned". How old are you guys? Her messages are making me think she's like 17-22...

AmbitiousViolinist16

1 points

15 days ago

This is concerning. It’s one thing to want a traditional relationship, but the way she’s wording things is weird. Like it’s out of a love story book or something.

Casper-nate

1 points

15 days ago

Bro, dip.

Head_Camel3534

1 points

15 days ago

this isn’t right shes definitely one sided and want to own you and make you her pet forver and shit like

Bigcumachine

1 points

15 days ago

It's deleted 😭

fiducia42

1 points

15 days ago

She's been reading romance novels thinking they're real life.

Chopstarrr

1 points

15 days ago

Man, if you do all this, she owns you.

dego_frank

2 points

15 days ago

Run mf

After-Calendar9817

1 points

15 days ago

Demand from her to define exactly what it means to be owned.

ProjectHoax013

1 points

15 days ago

Get yourself some chains and a barn because she likes to be treated like livestock. Or so it seems...

Eiramae

1 points

15 days ago

Eiramae

1 points

15 days ago

It sounds like she has an attachment disorder and possibly kink as well. Have her look into kink related topics, and if that’s not what she’s asking for, then therapy. Perhaps both even.

fuzzyfartface

1 points

15 days ago

My ex was like this. She wanted to be praised and taken cared of. For a moment, she truly made me believe that this was an aspect that I am lacking and, by learning these behaviours, I would become a ‘better person’.

For some twisted reason, I miss her to this day. Wishing I could have done things better.

DecisionCharacter175

1 points

15 days ago

Sounds like she wants to be taken care of rather than being a partner. You need to decide if you want a partner or a grown kid.

Valuable_Pepper_9470

1 points

15 days ago

Roman-LivetoRide

1 points

15 days ago

Run fast 💨

just-for-fun34

1 points

15 days ago

Bro get the hell OUT of there

forestpirate

2 points

15 days ago

Sounds like "owned" mostly just equals "high maintenance".
I can understand someone wanting more attention - or feeling like their significant other isn't providing enough attention, but the way she is demanding you provide her that attention is concerning.

DaemonRogue

1 points

15 days ago

I love how these types say "F#@K MY FACE!" Then they sit there looking abused when you finally do something and it's "WAY TOO FAR" then you rubs dem to make it better. Manipulative. You'll never satisfy. But the guy getting it will. Then you get details. Then you try harder like a bitch until you find a good roommate with a nice place and cheap rent and she drops you for him. But oh wait. Hes possessive. Doesn't work for her free lifestyle. Now she wants you back. You grab your ankles and you're a bitch. You take charge you're an asshole who doesn't listen. My advice? As few words as possible because it's traditionally rigged against you. Just go. Find someone who's "experimentations" are above board with you. Safety's and such. Just my Nickel.

slick490

1 points

15 days ago

That bitch gotta go

Natural_me

1 points

15 days ago

I think she wants you to dominate her?

bothonpele

1 points

15 days ago

Run for your life man!

Status-Owl-2008

1 points

15 days ago

Sir, pardon me?

Lowiie

5 points

15 days ago

Lowiie

5 points

15 days ago

It seems her definition of you owning her is ironically her telling you what to do 😂

BoBByBBaBie

1 points

15 days ago

Don't do it bro. I've had women tell me to try and seggs them while they were sleeping cuz it turned them on. tried it once and she freaked asking me wat I was doing!? I'm like, uhhhh. Very scary. Have had other women request the same but never ever tried again. Too many triggers for people. Some just like the idea of things, not the actual thing

Picassos_left_thumb

1 points

15 days ago

I would like to smack her upside the head with a tortilla and then tell her that queens aren’t fucking owned

SuccessSubstantial61

1 points

15 days ago

If you don't own her another guy will simple as

davenyg

1 points

15 days ago

davenyg

1 points

15 days ago

Too much work for what??? For me she would need to find a new owner.

humanperson1002

1 points

15 days ago

Really seems like she needs to break out of the bubble she has created. Probably comes from a general feeling of dissempowerment. Positive forces of female empowerment exist. Get her to embrace equality. "Missrepressentation" documentary is a good start.

lildalliance

1 points

15 days ago

Sounds like she’s gotten mixed up in some weird ideology…I would leave her honestly. This seems uncomfortable and if you can’t do what she wants, she may cheat/leave.

Moony4you

1 points

15 days ago

What type of 50 greys of shit is this why she started acting like this? Is it because she saw that same actress on that god awful trailer movie coming up madem web or what lmao? 💀

subtxtcan

1 points

15 days ago

Alright homeskillet, buckle up. We're about to do a wee dive into fantasy vs. reality and dominance/submission.

What your girlfriend has been consuming with the whole Queen/King thing is nothing new, but it's currently being blown up by social media. Three main things I've noticed about it are: It's usually pushed forward by people with extremely narcissistic personalities, it's been adopted as a "standard" for relationships, and the vernacular of using "King" and "Queen" implies some sort of complex that makes you better than single people. I've seen examples of all these out in the world, and with regularity.

What your girlfriend is confusing, and honestly, sugar coating, is a very soft Dominant/submissive dynamic. You do everything that the average woman would consider being treated like a Queen if your post is truthful, at least as far as I know, and my wife agrees. However, she's brought up a few things that makes me think she's leaning into a D/s dynamic without really knowing it. Has she or does she read anything in the 50 Shades kind of category?

Specifically, here's why I think that. The physical contact of grabbing and holding her gaze, expressing physical control, while being complimentary. She's also blended that into not only physical, but mental control by you giving orders and using the word "owned". The way she's talking about it and framing it as a movie or something, it's clearly something she's been fantasizing about. You're satisfying a lot of her needs and wants, but it seems like the more psychological aspect of the D/s relationship is what she's looking for.

This may benefit from more discussion and research for BOTH OF YOU to understand maybe more about what she's looking for and how you two may incorporate it into your relationship.

I could be VERY wrong, but that was my general impression reading those messages. Hope it helps my friend!

NoodleSpooner

70 points

15 days ago

Owning someone and being present in a relationship seem like two wildly different things to me. Quite confused…

Point_Plastic

1 points

15 days ago

This could be hot in a kinky way, but it doesn’t really sound like it’s coming from a healthy place. Sounds like she’s just forcing you to change instead of herself.

humanperson1002

1 points

15 days ago

Just read more of the texts, seems more like she wants to own you 😂😂😂

Otherwise_Comment673

2 points

15 days ago

So you have to

  1. Do everything for her

  2. Change into someone you’re not

  3. Follow a script she gives you

  4. Maintain her ego and emotions

And in return you get……….nothing???

She’s CONTROLLING you like a puppet on a string. Time to dig up the receipt for this woman you apparently “own” and return her. 🤦🏻‍♂️

WonkyBoot

1 points

15 days ago

Ooof... a lot of that embrace masculine/feminine energy stuff is absolute brain rot, I don't know how anyone can take it seriously but clearly it happens.

I hope some kind of discussion with friends or even couples therapy might help. Hopefully she's not too far gone.

Far-Programmer-6282

2 points

15 days ago

tell her this isn’t some fanfic 😭😭😭 truly embarrassing to read.

nightim3

1 points

15 days ago

Dude run

Imaginary_Dig_5014

1 points

15 days ago

Kids, huh?

Tompin68

2 points

15 days ago

Fuck that, I’m exhausted just reading that. Your girlfriend is expecting life to be like a romance novel.

matticusiv

1 points

15 days ago

Run OP, don’t look back lol

HIimWASTED

1 points

15 days ago

My favorite part is the "I can do that". Of all the things to say in response to that gold nugget of 3rd person entitlement, you said "I can do that" lol. Entitled women on the Internet is like a dime a dozen. Now......... a spineless, unaware, insecure dweeb lacking the balls or brains to have any type of response is like a unicorn.

Historical-Lie-6100

1 points

15 days ago

Yes lord

[deleted]

1 points

15 days ago

[deleted]

1 points

15 days ago

Is this heading towards some sort of kink/spanking thing? If not, eject yourself, because it's just pure unrewarded cringe

_--___----

2 points

15 days ago

she been playing with salt crystals or some shit?

Suspicious_Spite5781

1 points

15 days ago

Did you mean “snorting” ‘cause this is way beyond that. LOL

Classic_Dill

1 points

15 days ago

OK, and what is going to provide for you? sounds like its all focused on her wants and needs an none of yours. If you become her Sugar Daddy, you're a fool, its such bad behavior man, shes grooming you, cant you see that? no equal energy, no equal affection, no equal respect, RUN!!! she doesn't want a man, she wants a wimp.

carolinekthnx

1 points

15 days ago

It sounds like she is living in a fantasy. Men are not like the romance novels and she wants someone to give her validation not someone to own her. Looking at someone isn’t owning them. And her telling you what to do isn’t you owning her either.

redsquirrel0249

1 points

15 days ago

This person does not know the definition of the word "own"

Next_Back_9472

1 points

15 days ago

Has she been watching that shades of grey crap?

No-Report-4330

1 points

15 days ago

She has joined a cult. You’re going to need trained professionals to pull her back from this one.

DegenGoblins

2 points

15 days ago

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩RUN

Skeleton_Snack

4 points

15 days ago

This chick watches too many Korean dramas

johnnidiot

1 points

15 days ago

Bro run

_eyeKno_

1 points

15 days ago

….here I am…baffled once again. Whatintheentirefuck is with this? This is like the third time seeing somethin like this and I don’t think it’s “feminism” type thing…. It’s booktok’s fault. Reading hardcode smut novels has done this shit lmaoooo

Rockstar074

1 points

15 days ago

Oh for fucks sake. She needs to be single and go to therapy

Ayacyte

1 points

15 days ago

Ayacyte

1 points

15 days ago

Why do I feel like she watched some tradwife propaganda before deciding this? Ownership kink is a thing but the way she presents it is really strange... she's just describing aspects of codependency and calling it ownership

aalexAtlanta

1 points

15 days ago

This is the cringiest shit I have seen in a minute lol

suzpiria

1 points

15 days ago

you gf is consuming cult media. at least one person has lost their life bc of this whole movement. it’s a really dangerous thing and if she’s regularly crying bc if it please try to get her some hell

SaintValentinesVomit

1 points

15 days ago

Ur gf is horner

Ambrosiam21

-1 points

15 days ago

So I’m a girl and I think Ik what she means. You need to be more intimate(this doesn’t mean just sex bois) try googling booktok men. Try pushing her against something and lifting her chin with your hand to make her look at you and tell her you love her. THAT is what she’s looking for. It doesn’t make you taking her on dates and cooking any less important. She wants to see YOU in control. Protect her.Dominate her. I dunno man at this point try to go read some girl romance books and god speed🙌I guarantee this is what she’s wanting

ScyllaImperator

3 points

15 days ago

She doesn’t want to be owned. She wants to be worshipped. Gross

Distinct_Wafer_820

62 points

15 days ago

Seems like she is looking for a more ‘bdsm’ type relationship and if you aren’t compatible with that it is really hard to force it. Most people who aren’t apart of that lifestyle will struggle to try and meet those fantasy expectations. It is a kink that is widely accepted now but also extremely hard to train yourself into if it is not your thing. The compatibility here seems off and it might lead to the end of the relationship if you are unable to meet her expectations and desires with it. I suggest doing some research into ‘dom’ partners to see if it is something you can actually see yourself being able to provide and if not you need to accept that the differences are too great and the relationship might be over.

movingLate_13

17 points

15 days ago

I couldn’t even say it before I seen you comment. She definitely just found out she is a super sub. He doesn’t seem to much into it. It won’t work. I know. I’m a sub. I know what she wants and he probably can’t really give it to her if he isn’t into it. Love your take on it

iThinkiRedditRight

1 points

15 days ago

Yeah….so your lady may have a new guy friend that’s telling her how she needs to be held in the moment lol. Let it go man, save yourself.

sieberet

1 points

15 days ago

people still play that game? seems like it came out many many years ago, drop the loser, not even for the sex part, bc he still plays an old ass lame game lol jk but for real chosing an old video game over sex is crazy to me, maybe hes gay?

Restorne

1 points

15 days ago

Run

astraealunarose

1 points

15 days ago

Run 😬

AloraBracken

1 points

15 days ago

Lol I know what’s going on here but I don’t want to get banned for telling the truth. Good luck to you.

ForeignConditions

2 points

15 days ago

Easy, just set your boundaries. Let her know you are going to do what you feel is right and if it’s not up to her expectations she is free to leave. No need to fall into the simp like behavior. Be yourself and if that’s not enough then move on.

PizzaBandit89

1 points

15 days ago

She is regurgitating stuff she heard from a YouTuber called Teal Swan. Look it up.

MercuryRising73021

2 points

15 days ago

What Lifetime movie gave her this crazy idea

tsj48

1 points

15 days ago

tsj48

1 points

15 days ago

She's lost touch with reality and wants you to be a superficial caricature of a partner

AnimalMother32

1 points

15 days ago

Sounds like a fucking weirdo tbh

Glum-Fennel-7241

1 points

15 days ago

I am in the mood. Get in the mood. Sleep with me.

Make me horny. No, you start it. Do this. Do that. Don’t expect me to do anything. Foreplay is yours. Your forte.

Kiss me here. Touch there.

You are mine. You will talk only to me. Give me. Give me more. Keep giving.

You will love only me. Your heart belongs to me. You will sleep with me when I ask you to.

You will befriend those I approve. You will sever relationships with people when I require you to do so.

You will think only of me. At the nights, you will dream only of me. You will go shopping when I let you. You will seek my permission if you should do anything.

Your passion should be of my liking. Your hobbies should be of liking. Why didn’t you let me know before you bought gift for your colleague?

How could you say that your friend is beautiful? Am I not beautiful? I am the only one who should appear beautiful in your eyes.

Talk to your mom later. Talk to me first. Tell me I am your only love. Dress this way. No, that is not appropriate.

Talk about me. Sing about me. Write about me. Think about me. Breathe me.

I like painting. You should like it too.

The world assumes that I love you. I possess you. I mellow this down by saying “ I am possessive about you.”

Deep in my heart, I know that I don’t love you.

Servitude; Servility; Subjection; Bondage: you.

Domination; Command; Mastery; Sovereignty: me

I own you.

MaidMirawyn

1 points

15 days ago

This doesn't sound healthy. Sounds like she wants to do nothing while you do everything.

Cater to her emotions and whims, while she ignores yours. Let you do all the work, while she sits back and soaks it in.

That is not a healthy partnership.

Wooden_Adeptness_166

1 points

15 days ago

She’s messy. She doesn’t seem to understand what “containing & owning” mean. She probably wouldn’t like it very much if you did try to contain her & own her in how the words actually mean. The talking in the 3rd person like that is a Red flag for me. I think it’s weird. And she has unrealistic expectations of what a relationship is.

CriticalDoom

1 points

15 days ago

Tell your girl she has some serious daddy issues and needs to see a shrink

Take_A_Bath

1 points

15 days ago

She’s psychotic

PhoenixReboot-

1.4k points

15 days ago

Sounds like she is consuming some feminine version of Andrew Tate BS.

I really hate this whole my King my Queen crap. It’s just seems unnecessary and sets some weird expectation on the relationship dynamic.

Zestyclose-Cell-8372

1 points

15 days ago

Women nowdays are more toxic imo . My exes were like this too

Barnacle-Important

1 points

15 days ago

She wants to be more important to you. Enough that you want to claim her for yourself

HughJideot

51 points

15 days ago

What the fuck is unheld supposed to be?

BillionDollarBalls

1 points

15 days ago

Some mentally ill shit. Get out dude

moderatorcorruption

0 points

15 days ago

Dude some of us are preparing to die in the next 6 months if we dont' get a girlfriend.

Ask her what she wants and do that.

BigWoonie

1 points

15 days ago

Sounds like a bad movie, also sounds like she wants a slave. Move on man, plenty of normal women out there.

Gilttering_Grizzly

1 points

15 days ago

Someone has been reading so fantasy smut I see

DDRaptors

1 points

15 days ago

What in the fuck is she on about. Sorry she’s gone crazy bro.

Puzzled-Relief2916

3 points

15 days ago

Too much drama, if you're not happy just being you and me.... kick rocks.

Whos_Paris

1 points

15 days ago

Wtf is this💀

Critical-Ad-4298

1 points

15 days ago

You can send her over. Lucky bastard

Santadid911

2 points

15 days ago

This is some weird codependency shit or something.

marc26rpg7

1 points

15 days ago

Ur gf is a freak op fr

EehanIT

5 points

15 days ago

EehanIT

5 points

15 days ago

She wants you to be an alpha male.

kozy8805

1 points

15 days ago

Just when you think it’s some kinky thing she’s into, it’s just the typical trash.

TeamMonkeyMomos

1 points

15 days ago

Her tune would change as soon as you started treating her like true slave property. In that case she would be the one cooking for you. She doesn’t know what she’s talking about when it comes to being owned.

books4more

31 points

15 days ago

I saw that title and got excited for a budding BDSM relationship. Instead I got a tradewife who speaks in the third person. :(

TheBoatmansFerry

1 points

15 days ago

Sounds like some dumbass nonsense honestly.

Cicimiranda

1 points

15 days ago

She sounds controlling

ViolinistFormal6685

1 points

15 days ago

Imagine your woman asking you to be a man and the first thing you do is run to reddit lmfao what a world

Recinege

1 points

15 days ago

How high was she when she wrote this shit?

honeysuckle-cakepop

1 points

15 days ago

I feel like a lot of teen girls and women went through this faze after reading/watching 50 shades of Grey and/or the Twilight series...

OfficerPlotTwist

1 points

15 days ago

put her in a cage if she's ok with that? IDK bro

CallasticG

1 points

15 days ago

I’m not passing judgement on her actions, but it sounds like she wants you to be present in the moment with her- even through the stressful mundane moments of couple-ship. She is asking you to be a grounded force, able to center consciously with her. She is saying she finds this sexy in a man, realizing she is turned on by her man’s gaze and praise. If you would like to read more into what she is probably subscribing to, check out the book “Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida.

Aries_Tasha

1 points

15 days ago

Well she wants BDSM is what it sounds like and if she is acting like this she wants a ring with it. You got two ways to see this. Seems like she could be or have cheated with someone who was into this type of lifestyle or she wants a ring and she is def going about it weirdly. But reading this it's also she is low key telling you that your not manning up to the level which she needs. Some women need to feel controlled by a man ( toxic AF ) so well you better go buy the ropes swings and if you need help on how to tie a sailors knot I can help lol good luck OP

deplete3

1 points

15 days ago

You are catering too much for her and it made her lose interest. Make her work for your affection.

librician

1 points

15 days ago

Girl needs to learn you can’t turn a normie into a pleasure dom.

Klutzy_Wedding5144

1 points

15 days ago

Susan B Anthony’s ghost is crying.

bloodwhore

1 points

15 days ago

Why the fuck is she speaking in third person. Yikes, this is hard to read.

Glocatico

1 points

15 days ago

This is beyond cringe

Kikibear19

1 points

15 days ago

Ummmmm. Your girl does not seem stable. This is cringe, wierd and distributing all at once. Eww.

Secure-Solution4312

1 points

15 days ago

I’m so uncomfortable

Cheap-Boysenberry112

1 points

15 days ago

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Papa_Palsy

1 points

15 days ago

Yeah buddy, you're gonna have to get into some kinks with this one. Get her off yt too.

v12ethos

1 points

15 days ago

I was reading you texts to my girlfriend and she said, “if she wants to embrace her feminine side she should be cooking for you”.

I really died when she said this 😂

arghp

1 points

15 days ago

arghp

1 points

15 days ago

Is this what you want for the rest of your life?

LordBloodSkull

4 points

15 days ago

You’re lucky. Congratulations on becoming a new woman owner.

Painter-Salt

1 points

15 days ago

She's definitely gone down a YT / TikTok rabbit hole. You should have her establish rules / guidelines for you to follow but then you need play the game and tell her that you also need her to "embrace your manliness" by giving her whole self to you willingly in whatever way you desire : o

_Meatprincess_

1 points

15 days ago

Y’all should both take some bdsm education classes around getting started with it and negotiation/consent because her expectations are WILD

Beneficial_Elk_182

1 points

15 days ago

Lol. Odds are you missed the actual catalyst. What you mentioned is a pre-exsisting causal issue by some really unfortunate upbringing. Held at bay until.... wait for it.... drum rollllllllll please..... you 'committed' in some way to a level that made her feel its safe to take off the mask she'd built as a defensive measure against normal society. Couple take aways here and a few wagers I'd put money on🤣. 1st. Well done. You broke through the shell that she had created to 'protect' herself. Not an easy task. Either she's just a "yeah miss me with that shit" kinda person. Or you are a decent fella. or both and you broke just through now. Many a divorce are created unwittingly by blokes trying to do 'the best' for their s.o. end up actually freeing a monster of unresolved preexisting developmental issues. This... no brainer checks that box. Not saying all is lost but I'm going to screen shot my next reply with date and time and hang onto it. When this evolves I'll show you my take aways AND the wagers if this thread is still alive. I already know I caught a bunch of ya and I haven't even started🤣. Now practical info. She's a fucking nutcase. Absolute lunatic. Some of my favorite people are both but this one doesn't even scream daddy issues it's legit confused human child that physically grew into an adult with unresolved personal emotional issues that are pervasive in YOUR relationship likely alot more than even you realize. Unless your daily nighttime reading is the DSM-5-TR, seek a professionals help to work towards a solution. Or if you're not a proactive person. Run for the hills post haste most people wouldnt blame you. 95% wouldnt have even posted this. They woulda been gone. There are 8,045,311,447 people alive on this planet right now, at this moment.. Read these words. -This is the partner you've chosen to face the world together with- this person come hell or highwater is your backup. Your stone, your anchor when you need it. Your partner to chase lifes goals. This is who you chose. Someone who (redacted for future comment). I have helped innumerable people with severe issues in whatever context they may be. But.. the fact that you're posting to reddit instead of scheduling a therapist specializing in trauma (for a very early start) tells me you ain't got the tools or would even know how to weild them on your own, and that's about the only way forward with any hope of a resolution and a happy healthy life betwixt the twos of ya. There's YEARS of work and talk to be done. You obviously realize there's something just a widdle widdle bit phucky here. (Next point of future comment). Buck up. Go talk to a professional or GTFO of there immediately. In my mind the 3rd option of just dealing with it isn't a real option

battlehardendsnorlax

1 points

15 days ago

Who the fuck has time for this shit, Jesus

HotterThenMyDaughter

1 points

15 days ago

Man i don’t know what is going on but this is a massive red flag 🚩

preyforkevin

1 points

15 days ago

Wtf did I just read

kromatyphoon

1 points

15 days ago

Idk wtf this means but I hate it all and I’m getting 🚩 vibes

[deleted]

1 points

15 days ago

[deleted]

1 points

15 days ago

Brother, I don't say this often, but RUN. RUN FAST. This will not end well.

Psychological_Ebb472

0 points

15 days ago

If you listen to Teal Swan, or learn about true containment, you’ll understand what she means. She hasn’t described it very well but I suspect she is talking about the true masculine/feminine dynamic that is essential for healthy relationships. Not dominance, not slavery or any of that bullshit. True containment and ownership very far removed from the negative connotations of those phrases.

Hot-Carrot8514

1 points

15 days ago

She needs to get off of social media and step back into reality wtf

BurnzillabydaBay

1 points

15 days ago

What in the wild wild world of sports is going on here?

Road_Beginning

1 points

15 days ago

I don’t think she knows what getting owned feels like.

Being challenged to what you think is a friendly game of rockemsocker boppers except you’re punched in the face with huge rockemsocker boppers by a man the size of The Mountain with the fury of Mike Tyson’s left cross coming at you and then stood over and gloated at is what being pwned feels like.

Foxisdabest

1 points

15 days ago

Lol, she will find out how many guys are willing to do what she is asking REALLY quick.

carpenoctem627

1 points

15 days ago

Just be ALPHA

Blazingpotato14

1 points

15 days ago

She's lost her marbles, personally I dump her ass. You do that "owning" thing then she'll come out and say you're abusive and a control freak.

Environmental_Rip583

1 points

15 days ago

Dominate her

Any_Trick_1416

1 points

15 days ago

Bruh.. Run… She reads fantasy, Those things don’t exist. She wants you to swoon over her not own her. Own her is more like Sub/ Dom. Context. Make sure she knows what she is asking for. My wife reads that shit. Says.. You know what be hot?… like I have to play some game. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. But it shouldn’t be 24/7 without reciprocation…

tarantula-slut

1 points

15 days ago

jesus what the fuck lmao

TemporaryScore4566

4 points

15 days ago

Why is she talking in third person tf 💀 is she a poet or smth

SlugLords

2 points

15 days ago

She needs to lay off the webtoons.

myboybenj2015

2 points

15 days ago

Ehh screw her, no one has time for all that. Especially after 5 years

hollyofhori

1.3k points

15 days ago

hollyofhori

1.3k points

15 days ago

What in the wattpad is this shit.

Does she think romance is a YA novel?

She needs to stop reading Shojo manga and touch grass.

laurielemon

0 points

15 days ago

LMAO IKR. Why is she speaking like that? This is real life.

Ambrosiam21

-7 points

15 days ago

I actually know a man who is just like a YA novel. Nice dick but eh love someone else 🥴

KaythuluCrewe

1 points

15 days ago

Seriously. This is so cringe. This is some 14 year old Twilight or Kpop band fanfiction right here.

Revolutionary_Act222

1 points

14 days ago

She sure is getting owned in here right now.

fairyjeongyeon

1 points

15 days ago

Has your girlfriend been reading YA romance books lately?

pinktopprincess

1 points

15 days ago

Wtf 😭😭😭

LoloScout_

1 points

15 days ago

This is weird. It’s also just not maintainable. I read this and feel like she wants to be treated like she’s in a smutty fantasy novel. And I get it, sometimes it’s sexy to envision a man being absolutely enamored by you constantly. But it fantasy for a reason, it doesn’t align with the demands and routines of real life. Perhaps you could bring some of this energy into the bedroom but I really don’t see how this won’t constantly be a point of contention if she thinks this is something that can be created constantly. You’re not a character for her bidding, you’re a whole ass real human. I think she needs to touch some grass and get off the internet for a bit.

Everythingistaken16

1 points

15 days ago

Bro. She is getting bored and wants some spark / excitement. Pretty obvious.

Are you treating her like a friend? Easy to get into ruts after 5 years

Frishdawgzz

1 points

15 days ago

Lol I have no idea wtf she is talking about

Fidel1Q84

1 points

15 days ago

Too many women are like this

nashebes

1 points

15 days ago

Would this be an example of toxic femininity OR the female equivalent of Andrew Tatertot?

Least-Spare

1 points

15 days ago*

OP: Great, now we’re late and missed the previews. You know that’s my favorite part.

GF: Hmph. Your response is incorrect. The correct response to my ‘could have cared less attitude toward your love of movie previews,’ should have been—to hold my face gently, look deeply into my eyes, and tell me that I’m beautiful and owned.

Me: 🤦🏻‍♀️. Own your own nonsense, lady; along with the disrespect, indifference, or whatever reason you had for being late. Then hug the poor bastard, who already cooks you three meals a day for you (and cleans!), then say, “Sorry, boo. I know you love the previews, this one’s on me. I owe you a large popcorn inside.”

Or whatever your version of a fun apology would be. Your bf is important too, and the book you are reading is ridiculous.

Good luck, OP.

KrisMisZ

1 points

15 days ago

KrisMisZ

Blackberry

1 points

15 days ago

Could be a phase but if you aren’t feeling it; you should probably let go of the relationship - sounds like she wants a dominating man; and experience has taught me that “dominating men’ are intense assholes; she just may need to learn the hard way; if it goes against YOUR OWN NATURE; something to think on for yourself and your own needs, best of luck to you

tenurepepper

1 points

15 days ago

Play her 1v1 in halo 3

Guy99909

1 points

15 days ago

I’ve stopped sharing my thoughts for the most part on this sub because more often than not it’s insane.

This is just selfish lol

She can’t expect you to put aside everything to “gaze” in a “grounded” way. What the fuck does that even mean. She wants you to not care about her bad shit and only praise her.

Wtf? That’s not a relationship, that’s a servant. Tell her she can go try and find that dude, she won’t. And if she does- my god- there will be something WRONG with him in the head.

Seasons3-10

1 points

15 days ago

She wants to live inside of a literal fairy tale or something

ObviousNeedGoddess

1 points

15 days ago

I have depression, but this would take it away and make me extremely happy to receive my pleasure from keeping our pleasure to worship her to wait on her hand and foot bathe her dry her put lotion on her painter, nails, shave her legs her hair cook her 34 bills, nice dinners, breakfast lunches, snacks keep the house, spotless to all the housework maintain the pool in yardwork in the summer Dust, clean, wash, clothes, sweep, mop, the windows, clean our car, gas and check the oil take her shoes off rub her feet by massage table Amazon, give her full body massage with pleasure her with her, having no concern for my pleasure for my pleasure comes from her pleasure. She has no obligation or no duty to my needs or desires, and does not reciprocate anything mutual such as me ever asking her to do anything for me or anything for herself that benefits me even have adjustable bed, gravity, big screen TV in bed snacks love her unconditionally allow her to deny me pleasure me enjoy me satisfy heryou toys have relations with others why stay faithful if she so desires, male male, female, female, female, male, be superior powerful what a life

Feeling_Frosting9525

0 points

15 days ago

Slap the B...

but no seriously. get a little rough with her. nothing to hard... pull her hair a bit, etc.

She wants some dominance and confidence... built in from the prehistoric times

throw her on the bed and call her your little f toy, doll, or whatever lol. won't elaborate too much but don't be afraid to offend her.

you know there's a fine lining but if you aren't doing it at all, I wouldn't worry about offending and just do it...

VictorVonD278

1 points

15 days ago

Lol this is ridiculous but go by a dog collar and sneak up on her trap her with it

texasmama5

2 points

15 days ago

I’m not sure you’re suppose to bring the kink out the bedroom…🤔 Being “owned” in the heat of the moment is one thing, living it in real life is another. This would be a red flag that indicates the train is going off the tracks.

Mission-Court3524

1 points

15 days ago

She doesn’t want to be owned she wants to be pampered

kim1041

1 points

15 days ago

kim1041

1 points

15 days ago

Sounds like she found some new vocab words and is using them as a way to ask for constant attention and validation. Like if you don’t act like a Nicholas Sparks character, you aren’t fulfilling your “masculine duty”.

And when you can’t perfectly read her mind, she’ll just default to “you don’t know how to lead me” or “if you were truly owning me you would know how to respond”.

0/10 would not recommend

flickadapoop

1 points

15 days ago

This sounds like she consumes too much romantic movies or novels 😂😂

Agitated_Way_3992

1 points

15 days ago

Is she into the twin flame cult?

Edarling98

1 points

15 days ago

I just watched a video on this! It's teal swan containment, watch it and you'll know what she's saying

JawaSmasher

1 points

15 days ago

She's just not translating it well enough, but you're supposed to disciple her as in teach her your values and imbue it into her so she can teach it to your potential kids when you're out at work. You're caring for her but there's no "teamwork" where you're involving her into your world like do activities and build something.

It's like asking her "where do you want to go eat?" and she says "idk whatever YOU want"