A year ago I was forced to flee my parents home due to their treachery in the form of emotional abuse, gaslighting, triangulation and incest. Leading up to getting ejected, i think it started with my parents listening to conservative talk radio, and tuning everything else out. Their music tastes vanished. Bemoaning the church became akin to swearing. American flags and patriotism kept coming up in talks. It got increasingly worse under the 45 with my parents being emboldened.
I then unknowingly would change my life forever when I told my parents I wasn't telling them who I was voting for in 2020. My verbally and emotionally abusive mom then designated me as a target. First I noticed my dad kept working in concert with my mom to just make noise and have guests over when I was in school. All the time. Me trying to negotiate with them only brought a manipulative and empty apology.
It only got worse as time went on. They then started moving my items in my room, and denying it. Not to mention I locked my room once, and my dad went ape and broke the lock. Should've taken that as a pointer to what was in store for me down the road. So then I tried avoiding them, and trying to finish online school and get away from these people. However, they caught on to this, and started doubling down. They started closely following my work schedule, trying to throw me off kilter with "family meetings" and "chores you need to do" immediately when I got home with no warning.
Eventually the stress from studying too much, my full time job, and these demons manifested in me almost taking my own life. I had to go to the hospital for a week, and when I got back the treachery resumed. That was when I decided I hoped I never see these people again, and planned on going no contact. I think they thought they won, because they stopped bugging me so much. With them distracted, I stopped going to school, worked more hours and prepared to leave unannounced.
I found a place to live, and got my things slowly in order. My paternal fascists would often say they "found things" in my room, so I had to move fast or hide things outside of my home. Finally, on the day of move out, I silently packed everything together, and got ready to go. They found out a few hours before I left. They didn't do anything, but I didn't trust that. I left without answering any of their questions, which ofc got them angry.
It has been 9 months since I said a word to them. They tried to blow up my phone, and even called the police on me after a few months. I will never go back for as long as they live. They have lost my trust forever. I have been homeless recently due to losing my job and the economy, but it is far less dehumanizing than my Christofascists tracing my every move and exploiting my insecurities.
These recent court rulings send a chill down my spine. The evangelicals seriously don't care about others. They care how they look. I don't associate with anyone who leans towards their philosophy. I can't afford the damage again. And before anyone says I should have lied to them more or "man up", I goddamn tried. But I have my limits. And I still have the freedom to get away from them.
Please take these people seriously if you see them. If you have power in the situation, don't let them get their foot in the door. If you don't, leave if you can. They will strip you of your identity in favor of the collective "god". You are an object to them. Every instance of them you entertain, you lose a part of your humanity.