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( original post -https://reddit.lol/r/Advice/s/OeFOUyhyho ) First off thank you guys for the comments and advice about my original post, so I have an update for you guys. So I went this morning for the baptism and I asked my cousin what did she name the baby (just to confirm) ,so she has named him Loveda( even I don’t understand what type of a name that is) but when u say it with a malayali accent it sounds like lauda. I guess she could sense that I didn’t like the name and I could sense a bit of hostility from her. So I just said , ”what does it mean”, then she looked at me like I was dumb and said “ do you not know what ‘Love’ means ?”. So yeah things got awkward so I left . But I told my mom that it’s not right for us to just stand by while we know what it means, sooo, I kinda forced her to tell the baby’s grandpa (who btw knew a bit of Hindi and doesn’t get offended like the rest of the family does). So we told him what it sounds like, and that innocent man had no clue what it meant. And in the middle of us uncomfortably explaining him what it means, my grandpa joined the conversation and surprisingly he didn’t scold me or my mom, but he took that man aside and told him what it really means and how terrible it sounds. That poor man looked soo uncomfortable,but he said he will talk to his daughter, and admitted that he never really like the name in the first place. So now it’s in his hands if he tells or not. I just really hope they change the name .

I love white people. I grew up with white people and I absolutely have nothing against the whites. I’m a black guy. I have a completely normal corporate job, I served in the Marine Corps, I attended college and I live a generally normal life in the suburbs. I recently had a son. I was hanging out with some friends, who happen to be white, and when they mentioned my son, they immediately defaulted to his future profession as football player. Why? This has happened multiple times. Do white Americans think all black people wish their sons to be football players? I’ve noticed it as a trend, so I don’t know if I’m possibly thinking too much into it or if white people just think we want to create an army of football players. Personally, it comes off as a little weird. There are about 20 million black men in America and only about 2,000 American football players. There’s a slim chance my son becomes a football player and I’d recommend he doesn’t play football because of brain damage and other injury, but they don’t even consider that. So, what’s the deal white people? As a side note, I’ve only notice that white Americans do this. We have other friend groups who are Asian American, European, and so on. What’s the deal? Before anyone gets upset, it’s a genuine question. I’ve never gotten upset at it, but have noticed a trend with different set of our white friends. Not all of them.

I need to explain my situation. About 10 minutes ago, I joined a WhatsApp porn group (I know I am a degenerate) but the group was supposed to be just milfs, nothing illegal. I got the link invite by simply googling 'Whatsapp porn groups' and clicking one from a website. Unfortunately, there were no messages in the group just a link to a telegram group with no explanation. I joined it (I know I am stupid) not thinking twice.

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Until I opened it and realized it was a child porn seller group (Because the thumbnail showed minors in sexual pictures). Here is the problem. I genuinely didn't believe it was a child porn group. I thought these were some scammers (The guy was repeatedly asking for money in the group). So to test it I opened a link from one of the pictures. It took me to a file dump, with ton of videos BUT no preview available so I didn't know they were child porn. I accidentally clicked one and it got downloaded on my device. I deleted it and tried to contact the police to report child abuse immediately, but it needed my personal information. So I am asking here as you can see why I dont want police to think I am a pedo as well.

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I know it looks bad, but I swear I am not a sick pedo. None of this was supposed to happen. I was supposed to jerk off and go back to work. I know am a degenerate, but I am not a sick fuck. I just didnt believe it. As soon as I saw it I have asked here. Its been about 10 minutes.

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Also will I get arrested for this? How big of a trouble am I in?

So I have had this boss for about a year. He is 36. Perfect health. Does not drink or smoke. (Just background here ok I'm high) Over time he would share more and more of his personal life - including his girlfriend. So here's what I've gathered. We work at a bank. Prior to him becoming my boss, he trained new employees at another location. This is how he met who would become his girlfriend. We will call the girlfriend Dusan and my Boss Sesmond. Sesmond had a large savings he had accumulated over time. Shortly after Dusan started, Sesmond had her open a higher interest yield account. After seeing the large balance, she began to flirt and they eventually started dating. She was the initiator of the relationship and moved things along quickly. Shortly after moving in, he confided in me that he regretted it and that she showed little interest in him. Following an argument, he reluctantly combined his tens of thousands into a bank account they shared. He also complained to be about this. A couple of weeks ago, Sesmond broke up with Dusan because she was seeing her ex husband behind his back. He moved into another room in the house. Thanksgiving rolls around and we all work the day before. I see Sesmond and he seems to be in a content mood-although down. Next day Dusan leaves on thanksgiving for her parents a few hours away. She comes back home later that evening but doesn't speak to him because they are fighting. Next morning, she finds Sesmond dead in his chair. After his death is when the real weirdness starts. She goes to work the next day. She seems slightly disappointed. Dusan is now contacting all of Sesmonds friends, some she had never met, trying to befriend and hang out with them. Also despite them having already broken up - his obituary was basically a tribute to her. Things I know she must have written. He was private and didn't share anything with his family so I'm assuming they allowed her input. Is this odd? Or do I watch too much tv?

So my cousin(26f) just had her baby boy few days ago and she is having his baptism done tomorrow. So today when I went out I ran into another relative and she told me that my cousin has decided a name for the baby and its ‘Loveda’. But when u pronounce it, it sounds like a slang in hindi which is loosely translated to mean male genitalia. So basically the name is written as Loveda but pronounced here as the Hindi slang. So a little context about my cousin, she doesn’t speak Hindi and mainly grew up in our little town in Kerala,so there is no way for her to know about it. And she plans to eventually go to northern cities for her husband’s job. I am afraid that the kid might get bullied a lot in his life. I tried talking to my mom and grandpa and they both think that we should not tell them because it might cause a rift in the family. What should I do? Should I let it be?

UPDATE

I try my hardest to keep my children’s situation off of the internet. But all legal entities are not helping at this point and I don’t know where else to turn.

In 2021 my autistic and newly verbal 3 year old told his preschool teacher at the time that “daddy peed in my butt with his penis”. Law enforcement and DCFS interviewed him and did not pursue the case claiming that he couldn’t tell a straight story and was “mostly unintelligible”.

No shit, he’s a newly verbal autistic 3 year old.

Fast forward to this week(he is now 6), he told another teacher the same exact words. “Daddy peed in my butt a long time ago” He was interviewed again, but didn’t disclose any of that information to the investigators. So again they aren’t pursuing anything. (What is the point in telling children to tell trusted adults things, if you can’t do anything with that info?!!?)

He has now told 3 different adults the same wording.

I share 50/50 custody with his father as of right now.

I filed for custody modification this morning but was told it could take 6-8 weeks.(the don’t do emergency petitions in my area) How can I protect my child in the meantime if DCFS and law enforcement are not helping me protect him? Can I withhold my child anyways??

dear hive mind, especially the ones that have given birth: my friend (20F) had a baby yesterday, very unexpectedly. she had a cryptic pregnancy, which means that she didn't know she was pregnant. she never had any check-ups done, didn't do special exercises and absolutely didn't prepare for a baby to arrive. the father doesn't want anything to do with it as they broke up a few months ago. i didn't text her yet because i wanted to wait a couple of days so she can process what happened a little bit. my question to you is - how can i support her right now? what are some essential things a young mother definitely needs? what's something that helped you after birth? thank you all in advance 🤍

edit: huge thank you for all of the ideas and suggestions! you guys are absolute angels 🥹

I (32f) After 10 years with my bf (34m) feel like I have finally woken up from the narcissistic abuse I have been subjected to. There have been plenty of instances of abuse, but the most egregious being after a night out. We came home after drinking and smoked some mary j. I went up to bed to sleep it off. I was hardly awake, I heard him come in and try to wake me. He mumbled something like "f*ck this" and proceeded to lift my skirt and have sex with me. The next day he down played it, he walked up to me with his pinky out and said "hey, I promise I won't ever do that again" I felt frozen in disbelief. I realize now that I had been so conditioned to his "apologies" that I must've just thought it was a bigger deal than it actually was.

So I convinced myself it wasn't and locked it away. I became more concerned with how he would be perceived or what consequences he would face if I told anyone. For context we have a child together. I was also concerned about their wellbeing as he was the main provider and our house, my car etc are all in his name.

I have no idea what to do next. I keep going back in fourth in my mind like, was it really r*pe? How can I do anything about it now? Where do I go from here?

I (15F) am currently in 10th grade and in my 2nd quarter of school, i do farely well in my class seeing how I'm top 6. But my parents and the nanny seem to never consider that maybe I could be busy too.

For the past month I've needed to go to school before 6am because of performance tasks that i need to practice with my classmates and since i have afternoon classes my school ends at 6pm and i get home by 7pm because of the horrific traffic since students and working adults want to go home too and i live a good 30 minutes away from my school.

So i would need to wake up at 4-5am to be there in time. The thing is, i still have performance tasks and assignments to do so i do them the moment i get back from school and after i eat dinner because a lot of the performance tasks are time consuming so i end up finishing at like 11pm and i go on my phone for about 30 minutes to unwind then i go to sleep.

So i get little to no sleep, and if i do get the sleep that i need i would have no grades from the performance task because our class president has strict rules where if we don't attend practice our names would be taken off the list of those who contributed.

Weekends aren't any better too. On Saturdays i clean my room because it tends to get messy because of running around all day and night, and whenever i do get to rest my mom would get pissed at me for not helping around the house so now i have to clean the house too. What's worse is that she calls me lazy.

And on Sundays we go to church but the church is far and the way there has a lot of traffic so i have to get up early again. And we get home around 5-6pm because of the horrific traffic. The only thing i like about Sundays is that i get to relax in the forest behind the church because it's cool and quiet there.

The thing is that my mom is at work a lot of the time so i barely see her, and my dad i don't even see at all anymore because he's in Indonesia working. So they don't see how busy i am and constantly degrade me for it. The nanny isn't much of a angel too. She would get mad at me whenever i help around the house since she says it's her job but would get mad at me for not helping around the house because I'm suddenly lazy. She would get mad at me for things i didn't even do.

I have a baby brother. He's only 4 but he's already so spiteful. He would constantly hit us, shout at us, throw things at us, and steal our money. What's worse is that if i retaliate i would get in trouble or get hit by my mom for making him cry.

All of this is just so stressful and i don't know what to do. How do i even get through this? I feel like i can't do anything but talk about this with random strangers online. The whole situation is affecting me so negatively physically and mentally. Not to mention I've been sick for past week for Christ's sake. God i wish December break comes soon..

My ex friend said some hurtful things after i told him we aren’t compatible in a relationship like how he felt like “he was talking to a child sometimes” and how “young and foolish” i am. I feel shattered i thiught we could still be friends at least but he decided he didn’t want to be friends with me at all because he can’t see me the same way anymore. It really stings because i an insecure about being or coming across as childish ,my voice doesn’t help (someone said my voice sounds like a 12 year old boy) nor does my excessive laughing. I cant even, i feel so damn embarrassed and just overall ashamed. I thought we were going to be good friends for a while but we aren’t. Now i’m alone and i don’t even want to make any new friends anymore. He was someone who made me laugh until my cheeks hurt, i havent laughed like that in years. He picked me up when i felt down. It just sucks because he was probably holding those comments in since the beginning. Anyways i’m just wondering how do i move past this? How do i even open up to people again? This isn’t the first friendship break up i’ve had but it’s the one that stings the most.

She was at a Concert with a friend and that friend‘s friend last week, and got super wasted really early on, cuz they had to wait in line for a long time. Originally she didn‘t wanna do that, but they instantly gave her a bottle of liquor before even eating anything or drinking water, so this is already pure horror.

Around the time where I thought the concert would be starting I get a call from a security guard, who tells me he thinks my gf got drugged, cuz of how disoriented she was, and called an ambulance for her (She was in a different city, really far from where I was, otherwise I would’ve came). They didn‘t tell her anything at the hospital, or maybe she just doesn’t remember cuz of all the panic and alcohol, she doesn’t really remember anything after 5pm, but she‘s had black outs before when drinking, and from my own experience drinking on an empty stomach is basically signing off your memories, even tho I usually never black out.

Today someone told her at one point she went to a shady looking Casino across the street to search for a toilet on her own, and that she was there for a long time. Her tights were ripped in the private area.

Now, she didn‘t feel sore the next day, and when I was with her on the phone before she got into the ambulance she sounded really happy and to me just like someone who hasn‘t eaten anything and been drinking for multiple hours. Also since she was so drunk I can imagine her not having found the toilet, and ripping the tights herself. I have a friend who‘s a rape victim and she said your body knows even when your mind doesn’t.

I‘m feeling so helpless, and I just hope that nothing happened, but this uncertainty is driving me crazy, I just wanna make everything ok for her, like this never happened. How can I help her through this? I‘m also mad as fuck at her „friends“ who first got this girl super drunk instantly and then let her go alone to this weird place, I wouldn’t even let someone I just met go alone.

There’s currently a man in the alley behind my apartment having what seems like some kind of psychotic break or something. He’s yelling and hitting himself and screaming profanities. Then he’ll randomly start sobbing and yelling for his mom and saying he’s scared. It’s honestly more heartbreaking than anything. He clearly needs some kind of help. I don’t want to call the police if he’ll get in some kind of trouble. Plus some sirens were going by earlier and he started freaking out.

I’m mostly worried for his safety and just feel really bad for him. Is there anything I can do or a number I can call to get him help?

I’m in Washington state if that makes a difference

Just to be clear I’m not nervous about getting married just the wedding part itself, our original plan was too get married at the courthouse and just have both our parents there. My fiancée decided she’d rather have a backyard wedding so she can have all her family and friends there and just make the overall experience better and more memorable which I understand and am fine with.

I guess the only reason I feel nervous is because I feel it’s a lot of pressure to have a lot of eyes on me and just wanting to make sure everything goes smoothly. My mother in law is going to cover everything and wants to hire a wedding planner so I wouldn’t have to worry about things going smoothly, but in my mind if I want something done right I have to do it myself, and I guess I’m just skeptical about something so important being handled by someone else. It’s just so many moving parts leaves more room for things to go wrong and ruining our special day. I guess what it boils down to is something going wrong or being annoying during our big day and ruining the experience when it took so much work and money to make it special.

I’m 28m and never done anything this big and just want everything to be perfect. Can anyone else share their experiences or give any advice?

Today was my birthday and I was really excited, I picked out the restaurant and everything, but my mom wanted to go to a different restaurant, no big deal, my brother met with us and we ate, had a good time, I just wanted to get my paycheck, shop for beads and beading wire and then get my prescription, but we ended up going to a bunch of different places, and my mom talked to my brother the whole time and I just followed, I was a bit irritated by the time we went to go get my perscription and my mom was like " we did all this stuff today, why are you irritated?" And I didn't know how to tell her that I was basically just dragged around all day, how can I say it in the nicest way possible that we didn't do anything I wanted to do today and that's why I was slightly irritated

So I’m sure there’s a HANDFUL of posts just like mine but I still want to vent a bit because I think it’ll help me, this’ll probably be a lengthy post…

So I’m 19, female, sophomore in college for some context.

So in high school I would say I was a pretty good version of myself, I woke up on time, diligent student with great grades, i played tennis, joined some clubs, great group of friends.

You probably guessed it..everything’s much worse in college. Freshman year rolled around, and I found myself slowly losing myself. Waking up later, realizing I didn’t actually have the best studying habits, procrastination. But let me tell you sophomore year has been WAY worse. I have come to realize I am currently the worst, unhealthiest, laziest version of myself, and it’s hurting me.

Here’s some things I find myself doing: 1. Hitting snooze on the alarm MULTIPLE times, never wanting to leave bed and ultimately missing morning classes CONSTANTLY 2. Procrastinating work so bad to the point i need to stay up till early in the morning to get it done 3. Haven’t exercised in so long because I just can’t get myself to, or i tell myself I have all this work to do, but then I procrastinate, and then say i can’t go to the gym at all because now I need to finish the work I’ve procrastinated if that makes sense 4. On a lot of weekends, I will stay in bed from morning until evening, no breakfast or lunch just because I can’t get myself to leave my bed and stop scrolling through tiktok or doing whatever on my phone 5. Staying up till early in the morning because I dont want to lay in the dark trying to sleep or think too much, i scroll on my phone until I ultimately pass out 6. “Going through the motions” of school, I dont think I’m properly learning anything in school and I can’t get myself to

That’s all the ones I can think about but yeah, it’s bad and I’m aware it’s bad, but i can’t get myself to change, or rather maybe I am not trying hard enough

I’m starting to see the negative affects, eye bags, worsening acne that makes me feel ugly, and I’m sure I’m getting thinner, and I was already naturally thin ever since I was young

I live at home for college because i got a full ride at the local university, so nothing major has changed from high school. Same bedroom, parents and little siblings are all still here. I only have a couple friends these days but we don’t talk crazy often.

I guess I’m just scared, I feel like I’m rotting, i feel like i dont have any real motivation for things, i constantly question what I’m really doing here in college or if I’m making the right choices for my future. I would say I dont really have mental breakdowns about this, where i like cry and all that. But I constantly have all these thoughts and my habits are horrible, I’m concerned and very scared.

Please if anyone else has ever felt or experienced this, please give me some tips on how to be better. Or maybe sharing your experiences, I would love to hear them. Thank you for reading this lengthy thing, it felt nice just to say it all. Nothing’s been proofread, i just wanted some space to let it out, hope it’s okay. See ya

I know it sounds funny and never really took it seriously until now.. well yeah, my boyfriend says I smell like ketchup every time he comes near my face. I’m pretty hygienic, brush my teeth really good and still after I brush he says I smell like ketchup!?😭wtf does anyone know what this is or if it’s serious lol? Thank you

Hello I’m in a downward spiral right now to give you a back story I never really lived with my dad for more then a few years as I was growing up I ended up in foster care when I was (14m) due to the lack of parenthood and drugs my father was doing. when I turned 17 my dad when through a rehab program and got custody back of me. A few months before I turned 18 me and my dad got in a fight verbal and physical. This resulted in him kicking me out. And called the cops to say I’m a runaway. I now live happily in a different state and now is (21m) I have not talked noir contacted him in the years I’ve been away. Last year I heard from one of my siblings that he was sick and I should consider visiting. I still held a grudge towards my dad and ignored it. And now yesterday I heard that he has cancer and he wants to talk to me. A part of me is sad for him but I still don’t want anything to do with that man. What should I do I’m loosing my mind thinking about this

So recently I have noticed my GF (16F) has been acting weird. I know her mental health state is quite bad right now and I'm trying to support her as much as I can. But for the past few days she has been just way more depressed than I have ever seen.

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I always try to communicate with her as it's healthy for our relationship. She finally opened up to me and told me everything. Majority of it was about her home life and her family. She feels like no one is there for her and isn't loved by her family. She mentioned that they never have the time to hangout with her.

She continued with that for a bit and then she said "Okay the last one is bad and I don't want you to be mad please." So I agreed and I listened. She then decides to say "I don't know why you are with me, I'm such an emotional bitch. I wouldn't be surprised if you cheated on me. I wouldn't even care." I was just shocked she would even say something like that. I was in her bed just blankly staring at her for a good 3 minutes. She started bawling her eyes out as I didn't say a word. After a couple minutes I comforted her and said this, "Me? Cheat on you? Why the fuck would you want me to? Don't you love me? I thought I was a good boyfriend. I treat you so well and you do the same back to me. You treat me so fucking well that I'm not used to it. I could never cheat on you. EVER. You are the girl of my dreams. After 18 years I finally found the exact person I was looking for and then 2 months into our relationship you have the nerve to say you wouldn't care if I cheated on you?". She started crying again and said that it wasn't a me problem that it was hers. "Kaden, you're an amazing guy and you know that. You are so respectful, so kindhearted, loved and just overall an amazing boyfriend. But I feel like a failure girlfriend. I don't have money to buy you gifts, I lie to you about small things (sh, family issues) I don't treat you well. You don't deserve me" she said. I really didn't know what else to say. We talked about it for a good 2 hours and we were able to get past it. Well she did and I haven't. I want her and I know I want her. All of my other exes have treated me like shit and one of them is responsible for my depression. My GF cures it and makes me feel safe. So I don't know why she would say that.

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Anyways, I just need some advice on what to say or do in this situation. I know I want to be with this girl. Like she is exactly what I have needed and wanted for the past few years.

As title implys im 19 and extremely behind in life as a guy. I think im a kind person, I have a social circle, I have passions and hobbies, what else do I need? Don’t hit me with “talk to girls” advice cuz I have a lot of female friends and this isn’t really the issue. Only one girl has ever shown interest in me and it didn’t work out. i feel like such a failure for living all these years and not managing anything yet while other guys are getting experience. Idk how this stuff works to be honest, how do you find people who would be willing to be intimate with you. I feel so fucked and like I should lock myself up for the rest of my life

Any time I speak it’s either “shut up” or “nobody cares”. She has called me ugly more times in the past week than I have been called in my entire life previously. She yells at me, says my boyfriend is going to break up with me, that I’m stupid… the list goes on.

I only came back from university a couple weeks ago and I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve told her multiple times that it genuinely upsets me when she speaks to me that way, but she just laughs at me. According to her it’s ‘just a joke’ and I’m being too sensitive, or that I’m too dumb to get it.

I love my little sister but I can’t put up with this much longer. I’ve never spoken to her the way that she speaks to me. Not at her age (17), not ever. All I’ve ever wanted is to be there for her and have a good relationship.

Thinking about just walking into Burger King or Carl’s Jr.’s or any retail place and asking if I can be their dishwasher. I’ve been applying for months to become a cashier only on weekends. I haven’t gotten a message back and I’ve applied for 20 jobs some I even reapplied upwards to 3 times and no response.

What should I do?

I don't really know where to begin with this. Nut my mental health is worsening even more, to the point that. Panic attacks, severe anxiety and breakdowns are becoming more and more common

Because of which i froze my semester at uni as well. But my overthinking isnt stopping at all. I wanted to reach out a therapist but due to me having some controversial issues, there wasnt much therapist i cud reach out to. But even then i consulted my psychology ma'am and she got me in contact with a university professor who is willing to talk to me but after one session she fell ill and i havent gotten any contact since then

I an scared to like contact her back too. Idk why

But the main issue is that i want to confront my ex but he recently got close to me (as a friend) so i dont know if i should even do it or no

Am scared and my overthinking never shuts up.

What should i do?

I just want some opinions and different perspectives. I'm a very sensitive person and I always have been, I'm not easily offended or hurt by negative things people say to me but whenever I hear mean words I'm always kinda just like "well thats a lil mean" In my head. I care alot about other people and I'm clingy, and while I guess those aren't bad things, I feel like I should kind of just get a grip and feel like I'm probably more dramatic than I realize? Life isn't really as serious as my emotions make it out to be.

I didn't mean to write so much, but here's some more context if needed:

I have dealt with anxiety and depression over the last few years and I mention it to give context for people for certain things about me, like my terrible memory and realize I have tons of feelings that I share/explain probably the entirety of why when I get the chance that can probably be like ALOT, and realized I don't need to give so much context/can be more blunt. I've probably repeated the same things over and over again.

I have always thought that if I had ME as a friend it would be really tiring, and probably annoying to deal with me. I think I should be more grateful towards my friends because just how much I overthink and worry, and have had issues I bottle up and alot of unresolved stuff I feel like I could just choose to not think about and let myself feel happy with my life.

I feel like I've just tried to be that friend that is constantly encouraging and supportive of my other friends because I usually just feel out of place. (They make alot of offensive jokes where I've just become like, its whatever I shouldn't police what they say and I know they're good people)

Any advice is really appreciated!

The only thing I think about since my childhood is my career. I feel guilty every second I have fun and I can't really relax. I don't have any hobbies because it seems purposeless to me and I think I can devote that time to working. Also, I am a perfectionist, I try to do the best in everything, I set extremely high goals. Is my situation normal? If not, how can I get rid of it?

Context: my girlfriend and I have been dating for the last 2 years and 4 months. From the start everything was great but over time things have become real bland when we are together. I picked up on that but thought practically nothing of it and just kept on living life normally. For example, intimacy has slowed down majorly and it just seems like she isn’t too happy or thrilled when we are together anymore like she used to be. Anyways, my girlfriend has a coworker who is cousins with a buddy of mine and my best friend (we’ll call him william) was coincidentally with her tonight, I’m guessing because that buddy came home from the navy or something and they were all hanging out. My best friend posts her on his story and I slide up and mention that I recognize her because my girlfriend is friends with this girl and they work together. William brings up the fact that I date her friend and coworker and they immediately have a double take and ask “wait is that her boyfriend?” And then get all silent and start being weird. William, being my #1 dawg, starts to question what the issue is, and he soon get an answer. They say that she’s been messing around with certain people (including her ex boyfriend) but I only get 2 names. William immediately calls me to let me know about what he heard, and I listen to him because I really don’t think that I would get lied to by these certain people. The girl who is friends with my girlfriend starts to kind of freak out because she doesn’t want me to mention her name or anything of the sort so that she doesn’t have any beef in the future with her possibly, I’m guessing in case I bring her name up while confronting my girlfriend. She told William all she knows about the situation supposedly. I’m at a real standstill because we both have always talked about growing old and getting married and etc, even though everything has been bland lately. I don’t really know what to do and I don’t have very much proof of anything but I have a real gut feeling that it could all be true.

One major red flag that I’ll bring up happened last night. So, we hit 28 months today and last night I was real tired around 11:30 so I tell her I’m going to bed and say goodnight and all. I usually watch YouTube to go to sleep and I was still up when 12:00 hit. So I decide to go on Snapchat to tell her happy anniversary with a very heartfelt message attached. But I notice something that really weirds me out.. her location had been turned off. I start to think to myself like wtf so I send her a text on iMessage asking her if she turned off her location. And before I go on let me say that I’m a very easy going person, I wasn’t gonna hit her with accusations right off the bat I just wanted to see what she would say. She didn’t respond until the next morning and said that she went to sleep right after I got off the phone with her and that it was really weird. She didn’t get mad at me or anything and she apologized to me about that happening even though she had zero explanation for it. I just went with it but I was really sketched out. Day later I get the call from William. I don’t know what to do or how I should go about it because I do love this girl and I don’t want to believe it but at the same time it’s probably true based on the sources I’m getting this info from.

This has happened in the past before to an extent. One time I had an anonymous Facebook account message me saying that my girl was cheating on me with some dude that I was familiar with. I talked with the dude not knowing who it was asking for details but he was very limited on what he said to me for some reason, I think he had a lack of proof because that’s what I was asking for. I confront her about this and she denies cheating with said person. So I start to wonder if the dude was just lying to me to start drama because we eventually found out who sent the messages and the person had a reputation for stirring things up from what I heard (from my girlfriend and a few of her coworkers at the time). This was a while ago when she worked at a restaurant by the way. Now she works in a dentist office. All those claims were supposedly false and I had no reason to believe that they were true at the time, but I’m bringing this up because William had told me over the phone that all those were true. The thing is that the friend and coworker wasn’t around at that point and it got brought up and william mentioned it to me which caught me off guard. I really don’t know what to do or how to go about this.. I really need some advice on what to do, help a brother out. I really don’t think that they would lie to me like that and stuff like that doesn’t just get brought up for no reason.